A few of my friends are nervous about the concept of approaching women in bars and clubs. Some of us are fairly experienced (me); some of us are not. There seems to be enough determination among my entourage to make the night fairly exciting, we intend to go out and find the perfect woman. And with a drink in hand and a few smooth words, we intend to make a romantic connection. And that’s easier said than done. We all want to watch each other walk up to an attractive member of the opposite sex and try to manifest some kind of relationship out of thin air. Like this. “Hey, my name is Jess and from the moment I walked into the room, I haven’t been able to take my eyes off of you.” What do you think?
A lot of you women may not understand the pressure and struggle that comes with this whole facet of male life, meeting women and starting a relationship. For most men, for at least a portion of their life, this subject is a source of extreme, crippling anxiety. The fear of rejection is as real to us as it is to you. Some men adapt, learn, grow and master the art, but the lion's share of guys, unfortunately, settle or give up. Learning to be successful with women is something that pervades men’s thoughts from the time their voices begin to change to the day they give up the ghost.
So off we'll go, into the wild forests of the Austin nightlife. (Don’t worry. By the time Sable reads this, I’ll be home.) We intend to ridicule and laugh at each other as nerves and emotion eat away at our resolve, but secretly, deep down under all the machismo, we all hope to learn something from one another. We want to see one of us succeed and unlock some kind of secret, primal code that will show us how to attract and be successful with women.
When you read books by Sable or any similarly genred author, you won't see this struggle. You will see naturals, and masters, and princes. Warriors will sweep women off their feet and knights in shining armor will avow their hearts to rescue distressed damsels. You'll never know how much effort regular, real men exert to be like one of those guys, the ones that seem to catch your eye without even trying.
I'm not too nervous about it. I'm not a master, but I'm not terrified either. I'm sure I will experience some degree of success; women respond well to a guy with courage and I have that (especially when I wear my cape). I'm not putting a whole lot of thought into it. What definitely WILL be on my mind is this: where in this world will I discover a scenario that makes both the man's and woman's wildest dreams come true? What is the perfect opening line? Is it a chase? Is it serendipity? Does a woman fantasize about a man who hones his social skills to perfection in order to communicate who he is and why she should care, in just a few short words? Must he be out-of-this-world? Is any of it fair?
This excitement of a first glance, a first smile, the acceleration of the heart is what I write about. I want to capture that feeling. I want to tell a story that will drive every person's mind wild with joy and love. Isn't there a place to go to watch romance happen organically? Does it happen that way at all? Tonight, I’m looking for it. I’ll let you know what – or who – I find.
Yes, I'm looking for it. I'm looking for love. I know you all are also. That's why you read books like mine. We'll search together, and we'll never give up hope. Until we find it, thank god for romance novels.
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